13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

November 13 by Amy Morin in Communication, Motivation | 185K Shares

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

 

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

 

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

 

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

 

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

 

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

 

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

Girls Who Rock Their World

Today I was honored & blessed to be able to attend the L.A. County Women's Leadership Conference.

There were many inspiring speakers & leaders.....

The one that touched & excited me the most was Martha from Girl Rising.  The Girl Rising Project is about girls world wide overcoming traditional roles (of slavery and lack of education forced upon them by their cultures)... It is about their fight for freedom. It is about their fight for education. It is about their fight for self-liberation & the liberation of other girls in their culture who suffer the same injustices & impoverishment.  

I urge you to take the time to watch the trailer to their film.....  It will rock your soul & your world!

http://www.girlrising.com/girl-rising/

 

I so wish to say more, but my words are not enough.....  The least I can do in order to support & further the goal of these young girls, and others like them is to share their stories.....

We talk about being "feminist"... Too many people, especially & inclusing women believe that to be a "bad" thing, when in Reality it is merely about equal rights to: life, education, employment, and humane treatment.

At the Vancouver Peace Summit of September 2009, the Dalai Lama proclaimed himself to be a "Feminist". 

Read more: http://dalailamacenter.org/blog-post/western-women-can-come-rescue-world

He also stated at the 2009 Vancouver Peace Summit: "The World Will Be Saved By the Western Woman".

This is where Western Women like: Martha Adams; Hollye Dexter, Amy Ferris, Samantha Dunn of http://www.theshameprom.com/ ; and Barbara Bush of http://www.girleffect.org/about/  are making a difference world wide within the culture of the feminine.

Along w/ viewing the trailer of http://www.girlrising.com/girl-rising/, I urge each & every one of you to also   Read the Girl Declaration

Be a part of the change, be a part of the healing.....  The healing will be come you and your soul will sing as it soars!

I (Obviously Do Not) Love My Self the Way I Am

You know I have been thinking about this for a long time now... I have a huge issue w/ this....

More and more often I am seeing people I have admired and whose teachings I have followed with face lifts.......

So I'm thinking in terms of their teachings: "I Love Myself the Way I Am", "I Am Beautiful Just the Way I Am, "I Love and Accept/Approve of Myself just the Way I Am"", blah, blah, blah, blah, blah......

I look out there at all the Natural Beauty & those who espouse & repeatedly assure us & bombard us with: "Beauty Comes from Within".... and what do I see? I see that many of those people have Face Lifts!

I'm Like.... WTF? Who are you kidding? It's okay for your audience to age, but not for you, who is preaching to us?

So are you, preaching person, unhappy with yourself, are you saying that aging makes you ugly, that beauty is really superficial? Are you showing us by your actions & proclivity towards "cosmetic surgery" that you believe yourself to not be good enough, to believe that you are not beautiful, that your inner beauty isn't enough?

If so, then I want to know...
* Why Have You Been Lying to Us?
* Why are you STILL Lying to us?
* When did you "sell out"?
* What makes it different for you?
* What is the difference that makes it appropriate for you to enhance your looks w/ superficial paid for surgical beauty?
* What are you afraid of in the aging process?
* Do you not trust Creator and the natural process of life/living/aging?

Either you believe and practice what you preach or you do not.....  

If you do not, then shut the hell up and retire, for your hypocrisy has outed you!

   

FDA: GMO Salmon.... WTF??????

When the FDA won’t act, Friends of the Earth works even harder.  Will you give $5 and help us shut down the market for GMO foods?

Dear Kimberly-Ann,

Here’s the good news – the work that we’ve all done to keep new, unlabeled GMO foods off store shelves just got a boost. The Washington Post¹ just ran a front page story highlighting the success of our GE-Free Seafood Campaign and the pressure people like you have put on stores not to sell genetically engineered seafood. It also called out Kroger -- one of the biggest holdouts -- by name.

But now the bad news: we’ve also learned that final FDA approval of GMO salmon could be right around the corner -- possibly in the next few weeks.

 

Just because the government won’t step up and stop this frankenfish doesn’t mean we’re giving up. Will you give $5 right now to help Friends of the Earth and our work to stop GMO seafood?

It’s clear that the majority of consumers don’t want unlabeled, untested, virtually unregulated GMOs on store shelves. So if the FDA won’t protect us from the risks of genetically engineered foods, then we will elevate consumers’ voices and ensure that companies listen.

We’re not stopping with GMO salmon. As early as 2014, GMO apples could be on the market, so we’re asking Gerber baby food company, one of the largest buyers of apples, to keep its baby food free of risky GMO apples.

And that’s not all; we're taking the lead to make sure that extreme genetic engineering stays out of your ice cream. The New York Times² just ran a piece highlighting our campaign calling on major ice cream companies not to use a new vanilla flavoring excreted by genetically engineered yeast. This synthetic biology vanilla may even be labeled “natural,” despite being produced by genetically engineered yeast cells created in a laboratory.

In all of these campaigns we’re up against food giants who have vast coffers to draw from. It’s going to take the support of people like you to generate enough pressure to ensure our food system is healthy, sustainable and honest.

 

Please give just $5 -- or more if you can afford to -- and help Friends of the Earth in our work to pick up the slack when government fails to protect us.

Standing with you,

Dana Perls,
Food and technology campaigner
Friends of the Earth

1. Dennis, Brady. (2013, Oct 18) “A new method against genetically modified salmon: Get retailers to refuse to sell it”. Washington Post.
2. POLLACK, ANDREW. (2013, Oct 20) “What’s That Smell? Exotic Scents Made From Re-engineered Yeast”.  New York Times.