| "If a child hasn't been given spiritual values within the family setting, they have no familiarity with the values that are necessary for the just and peaceful functioning in society." | |
| --Eunice Baumann-Nelson, Ph.D, PENOBSCOT | |
| When we are born, we start with a beautiful empty mind ready to be given our beliefs, attitudes, habits and expectations. Most of our true learning comes from watching the actions of others. As we watch our family or relatives, whatever their actions and values are, so will be the children's values and acts. If we see our families living a just and peaceful way of life, so then will the children. If we see our family shouting, arguing, and hateful, so will it be for the children. The cycle of life - baby, youth, adult and Elder is all connected. If the older ones have good values, it will be connected to the children. |
At the risk of peeving many people I am going to speak out on what I see going on these days:
Many women whine and ask "What is wrong with my child?"... well don't you know, the way they allow their child to behave is what is "wrong" with their child!
Raising children is NOT a democracy. Children are "MEMEME" beings, egocentric creatures and they have not a clue of what is good for them or how to behave unless YOU, their parent teaches them! It is up to parents to raise children to be capable adults!
You as the parent are responsible for teaching that child right from wrong, good from bad, appropriate manners, spiritual beliefs...... And believe you me, just yelling at them isn't gonna make one single bit of difference....it's interaction, like one-on-one time. Making yourself the living breathing example of what it means to be a good person....showing them. Parents teach by example. There is no "Do as I say, not as I do!" That's a cop-out.
Discipline is NOT abuse.......it's Love, it's Caring. Get off your dead butts....don't let your Momma & Poppa raise your child...don't let your Auntie or a Nanny raise your child....you will lose their respect. Hell, if you don't care enough to be there for them, you think that child isn't going to know that? You think they are gonna respect you? You think, what that just because you gave birth (or seed) they are going to be "connected" to you? Well, you better think again!
How is/was your relationship with your parents? So, then...do you want the same thing for your child? If not, then you better change the pattern.... You need to be there for that child, not just hand them off to the closest relative while you go out and live your life.
I've sad news for you...a baby/child is FOREVER...and once you give birth your very own personal fun loving life is OVER...you now have 100% full-time responsibility for another living two-legged being. A child is NOT a pet, that when you get tired of you can send to the shelter!
If you don't want a baby.....well then take precautions! So many young, lonely girls have babies in order to have someone that will love them. Babies are not equipped to give love...they are for giving love to, 24/7/365!
You want a warm snugly thing to love you, that takes relatively little care in comparison to a baby? Then get a Dog....one from the Humane Shelter will do good. All you have to do is give them food & water...and clean-up...they will be there when you are done running the streets and happy to see you and ready to love you...unlike a baby!
You and you Alone are responsible for how that child turns out......You show your child by example what it means to be a fully functional (or dysfunctional) adult, as the case may be.
Wake up people....the time is now. If you shirk your responsibility to your child, then you have absolutely no cause to complain what type of person your child turns out to be.
And that is the Creator's Honest Truth.
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