Little Monsters Are ONLY Cute on Halloween

I know many people refer to their children as "Little Monsters", but that is only cute for Halloween. When children throw temper tantrums or scream & yell until bloody blue in the face and are ignored by their parents...I (and many other people) just want to pull that parent aside and shake the shit out of them!

I am so tired of all the insolent, rude, spoiled, unmanageable, misbehaved, screaming children there are in today's society...I see them most everyday, especially where I work. It is totally inappropriate for children to be allowed to misbehave, especially in public. It's pathetic that today's parents have not a clue how to properly raise children.

I'll tell you, if I or any of my friends had ever pulled a hissey fit in public (like so many children do now)...our momma's dropped whatever they were doing/shopping for, pulled us outside, put us in the car, took us home and punished our misbehaving asses.

You want to know who is responsible for teaching children manners, right thinking, & good behavior? Well for sure it's not: Gandma/Gandpa, Nanny, teacher, principle, Auntie/Uncle...it's the person who gave birth to the child as well as the seed donor, in other words...IT IS YOU MOM & DAD...You Are Responsible.

I am so sick and tired of having my dinner ruined in a restaurant by some screaming spoiled brat and Igmo parent. It's no better in a store, mall, Library, park, visiting a friend's home, or being at home and having to listen to the neighbor's kids scream bloody hell & murder because they are not getting their way and are being ignored by the parental unit.

Once you become pregnant, then have a child...life as you (Mom & Dad) once knew it IS OVER! It is No Longer about You. It's No Longer about having fun & freedom...it's about Growing up and taking responsibility for Someone Else, and this little Someone Else needs love, care, & guidance 24-7-365! You, as Mom & Dad...don't get to ignore this child... You, Mom & Dad are the ones to set the Example of how to: behave in a socially acceptable manner, treat others, give respect to All Other Living Beings, care for belongings, eat healthy, be a contributing member of society, and walk in balance.

Babies Are Not Puppies...they do Not Give Unconditional Love...they Need Unconditional Love as well as your undivided attention. Ignoring a screaming baby or poorly behaved child is a subtle form of Child Abuse. Plopping a child in front of a television, gameboy, Wii, computer is NOT an acceptable way of raising a child. Those techno machines Are NOT Babysitters. Children, for the most part, are not able to discern what is Real and what is Not from techno machines.... Techno machines teach a skewed form of virtual reality, which has nothing to do with Real Life. Not to mention the fact that the techno machines alter active brainwaves....disabling cognizant thought process in young children.

Food also plays an important part in a child's behavior & health. When I was growing up (back in the Dark Ages) it was not a common practice to take children to the dentist unless they had a severely damaged a tooth! Now with all the sugar in their diets...not only are children's baby teeth rotting & falling out early, but their health is deteriorating. Over abundance of sugar attacks the immune system, it leaves a child open to diabetes and other disease. Obesity Is a Disease....and a chubby baby may be "cute", but an obese child is a very unhealthy child. Sugar also is a culprit in behavioral problems.....highs & lows.....crankiness from coming down off a sugar high is nasty.

So many parents ask: "What is wrong with my child?" I have new for them: They Are What is Wrong With their child.....the way they raised their child is obviously suspect. Raising children is NOT a democratic process......although babies start off as MeMeMeMe and are in need of constant gratification of their basic needs...they grow into children who are capable of cognizant thought process via interaction with other human beings (Mom & Dad) and need guidance and healthy examples of good behavior in their home life.

Not only do your examples set the course for your child's future as an adult...it can keep them out of prison as well as clean & sober. Don't you know: children who are allowed to run amok and behave like Little Monsters (except for when they are sleeping), pretty much grow up to be Assholes, a detriment to themselves and pretty much a menace to society.

So get a clue Mom & Dad...it's time to pay attention to what you are doing to your child and start teaching your children how to be capable, respectful, and healthy human beings.

Mi Takuye Oyacin

Elder's Meditation of the Day - August 17

"If a child hasn't been given spiritual values within the family setting, they have no familiarity with the values that are necessary for the just and peaceful functioning in society."
--Eunice Baumann-Nelson, Ph.D, PENOBSCOT
When we are born, we start with a beautiful empty mind ready to be given our beliefs, attitudes, habits and expectations. Most of our true learning comes from watching the actions of others. As we watch our family or relatives, whatever their actions and values are, so will be the children's values and acts. If we see our families living a just and peaceful way of life, so then will the children. If we see our family shouting, arguing, and hateful, so will it be for the children. The cycle of life - baby, youth, adult and Elder is all connected. If the older ones have good values, it will be connected to the children.

Oh my Creator, if there are values I have missed, it is not too late. I can get them from You. Teach me today Your spiritual values. Respect, trust, giving, honesty, wisdom - teach me these

At the risk of peeving many people I am going to speak out on what I see going on these days:

Many women whine and ask "What is wrong with my child?"... well don't you know, the way they allow their child to behave is what is "wrong" with their child!

Raising children is NOT a democracy. Children are "MEMEME" beings, egocentric creatures and they have not a clue of what is good for them or how to behave unless YOU, their parent teaches them! It is up to parents to raise children to be capable adults!

You as the parent are responsible for teaching that child right from wrong, good from bad, appropriate manners, spiritual beliefs...... And believe you me, just yelling at them isn't gonna make one single bit of difference....it's interaction, like one-on-one time. Making yourself the living breathing example of what it means to be a good person....showing them. Parents teach by example. There is no "Do as I say, not as I do!" That's a cop-out.

Discipline is NOT abuse.......it's Love, it's Caring. Get off your dead butts....don't let your Momma & Poppa raise your child...don't let your Auntie or a Nanny raise your child....you will lose their respect. Hell, if you don't care enough to be there for them, you think that child isn't going to know that? You think they are gonna respect you? You think, what that just because you gave birth (or seed) they are going to be "connected" to you? Well, you better think again!

How is/was your relationship with your parents? So, then...do you want the same thing for your child? If not, then you better change the pattern.... You need to be there for that child, not just hand them off to the closest relative while you go out and live your life.

I've sad news for you...a baby/child is FOREVER...and once you give birth your very own personal fun loving life is OVER...you now have 100% full-time responsibility for another living two-legged being. A child is NOT a pet, that when you get tired of you can send to the shelter!

If you don't want a baby.....well then take precautions! So many young, lonely girls have babies in order to have someone that will love them. Babies are not equipped to give love...they are for giving love to, 24/7/365!

You want a warm snugly thing to love you, that takes relatively little care in comparison to a baby? Then get a Dog....one from the Humane Shelter will do good. All you have to do is give them food & water...and clean-up...they will be there when you are done running the streets and happy to see you and ready to love you...unlike a baby!

You and you Alone are responsible for how that child turns out......You show your child by example what it means to be a fully functional (or dysfunctional) adult, as the case may be.

Wake up people....the time is now. If you shirk your responsibility to your child, then you have absolutely no cause to complain what type of person your child turns out to be.

And that is the Creator's Honest Truth.

Teaching Our Children: Elders' Meditation: April 2, 2009

"If anyone has children, they better teach their children to follow the traditions that we're leaving behind because it is later than we think with all that's going on."

--Juanita Centeno, CHUMASH

The habits, attitudes and beliefs that carry the human through the trials of life are developed at a very young age. If we are taught respect at a very young age, the odds are we'll be respectful throughout our whole lives. If we are taught to dance at a young age, we'll dance our whole lives. If we are taught to sing the traditional songs while we are young, we'll sing those songs throughout our whole lives. And who do we drum and sing songs to? Our children. This is how we keep it going.

Great Spirit, today, teach me to teach the children

Our "Elders" are now passing, going back home to Creator. Their time here is over, so what are we going to do? We have taken them so much for granted, we figured that they would be the ones who would teach our children, that we wouldn't have to worry, we could just sit back and take it easy.

Well, guess what? It's time those of us on the Canka Luta Waste get up off our seats and follow in the footsteps of those who are going on. It is up to us to teach our children. It is up to us to take what we have learned (if anything) and pass it down to the younger generations. It is no longer about "us", it is about our children's children, the next 7 generations and our non-two legged relations. It is about the continuance of life on this Unci Maka (Mother Earth) as we know it.

We ARE The Elder's now, and we better wake up soon and figure it all out or step aside. We are now responsible....we can no longer pass off the responsibility of raising capable children. We are the ones to set the example if these ways are to continue in the "Traditional" manner, so that chaos does not ensue....

We are the ones to set the example, not be the exception. We are the ones to be the bright and shining example of what it means to be the solution as opposed to being a part of the problem.

Yeah so it's like that. Mi Takuye Oyacin

360: Helping Out-Elders' Meditation: December 10, 2008

"Come forward and join hands with us in this great work for the Creator."
--Traditional Circle of Elders, NORTHERN CHEYENNE
The Elders have spent years learning to pray and communicate with the Great Spirit. Their job is to pass this knowledge onto the young people. The Elders have told us we are now in a great time of healing. The Creator is guiding them to help the young people figure this out. We must get involved and participate. We should pray and see what it is the Great Spirit wants us to do. We need to sacrifice our time to help the people and to be of maximum use to the Creator. Every person is needed to accomplish this great healing.

Creator, whisper what You want me to do.

I was on my way to Mexico to do some sacred work, and these two beautiful children were seated in front of me on the plane...we played and sang, and made finger-plays. It was so awesome....and it's time you know, for the new Elders to step up to the plate and teach the children. Our Elders are on their way back to Creator...it's up to those of us who are now the "Elders" to fix the messy minds we have created in our children.... Raising Children is NOT a Democratic process....we need to love our children & grandchildren, but we must do so with a firm yet loving touch. It's about the good of the world and All Our Relations, not just for our immediate family. It's about teaching the natural laws and the way of balance if we are to survive.

360: Our Children: November 13, 2008

Elder's Meditation of the Day - November 12
"I don't think that anybody anywhere can talk about the future of their people or of an organization without talking about education. Whoever controls the education of our children controls our future, the future of the Cherokee people and of the Cherokee Nation."
--Wilma P. Mankiller, CHEROKEE
The world has changed in the last 50 years. It will change even more in the next 50 years, and it will change even faster. We must educate ourselves to ensure our future generations will maintain the language and the culture of our people. We need to be concerned about our land because when our land goes away, so will our people. We need to be concerned about leadership, our families and about alcoholism. We need to be concerned about what's going on around the world. We can only do this by being educated. Then we can control our future.

Great Spirit, please guide our children; let me know how I can help.

360: Elders' Meditation: May 30, 2008

"The land is a sacred trust held in common for the benefit of the future of our nations."
--Haida Gwaii - Traditional Circle of Elders
The Creator made the Earth to support life so that life would continue to reproduce, everything would support one another, and future generations would have the same benefits of supply and beauty as the generations the proceeded them. This cycle will only continue to the degree that we make choices and decisions for the future generations. Today, we are too greedy and selfish. We are cheating our children, grandchildren and the children unborn.

Creator, let me see the consequences of my decisions, and show me how to make healthy corrections.

360: My Responsibility: April 28, 2008

Elder's Meditation of the Day - April 27
"The law is that all life is equal in the Great Creation, and we, the Human Beings, are charged with the responsibility, each in our generation, to work for the continuation of life."
--Traditional Circle of Elders
Every generation is accountable to leave the environment in healthy order for the next generation. Every generation is accountable to teach the next generation how to live in harmony and to understand the Laws. We need to ask ourselves, "What are we teaching the next generation?" Each individual is directly accountable.

My Creator, teach me inter-generational responsibility.

360: Wal Mart Watch: December 24, 2007

This year, Wal-Mart pulled millions of recalled products off its shelves -- from toys to food to children's car seats and cribs.


So what is Lee Scott, Wal-Mart's CEO, doing to inform his customers about these recalls? He put a tiny link at the very bottom of the Wal-Mart homepage. That's it.


Surely the biggest company in the world can do better than that -- especially during the holiday season, when Wal-Mart sells even more toys than Toys 'R' Us.


But since Mr. Scott won't be open about Wal-Mart's product recalls, we are doing it for him.


Wal-Mart Watch has launched a new site, Recall Wal-Mart, which is full of information about the recalled products sold at Wal-Mart. It also has a tool that lets you send a letter to Lee Scott about Wal-Mart's role in its customers' health.


Check out the site, and tell Mr. Scott that when Wal-Mart has a recall, it should be the first thing on their website, not the last:


http://www.RecallWalMart.com

Wal-Mart Watch believes there is a reason Wal-Mart stocks so many recalled products and then buries the news at the bottom of its website. Mr. Scott is putting the company's interests ahead of its customers' safety.


Many of these recalls are the result of the intense cost-cutting pressure Wal-Mart puts on its overseas suppliers -- thousands of which are located in China, where safety standards are much weaker.


Because of Wal-Mart's tremendous size and influence, manufacturers are forced to meet its demands. When Wal-Mart requires lower prices, that means sacrificing quality and using cheaper materials, like lead paint.


To make matters worse, once the dangers of these products came to light, Lee Scott failed to properly inform Wal-Mart's customers about the recalls. That's just irresponsible.


Visit Recall Wal-Mart and tell CEO Lee Scott to put customers' safety first:


http://www.RecallWalMart.com

This isn't the first time Lee Scott has put the corporation first instead of people.


For years, Wal-Mart has been skimping on employee wages and benefits, so that less than half of its workforce gets its health coverage from the company.


Wal-Mart also hurts local communities and neighbors by forcing small businesses to shut down and spoiling the local environment.


And Wal-Mart has continually tried to bilk communities on the local tax bill, whether it is petitioning to lower its property value or setting up dubious foreign arrangements to take advantage of tax loopholes -- depriving communities of much-needed revenue.


Wal-Mart Founder Sam Walton valued the communities that supported his stores, and he valued honesty with his customers. Wal-Mart has long since abandoned his original vision.


Again and again, Lee Scott has shown that Wal-Mart's interests are more important than the people it serves or the communities it calls home. Visit Recall Wal-Mart and tell the retail giant you've had enough:


http://www.RecallWalMart.com

Sincerely,


David Nassar

Wal-Mart Watch

Paid for by WalmartWatch.com, a campaign of Five Stones and The Center for Community and Corporate Ethics

360: On Child Abuse (RNS): September 5, 2007

A Lifetime of Lies
she looks into his eyes with complete trust
takes his hand as they walk down the hall
his promises fill her heart with joy,
she believes, she never realises she is his toy
his words are so smooth and practiced,
but she is too young, she doesn't know
"You know how much I love you sweetpea"
to her they are special and she loves him so
as the door closes the journey begins
a lifetime of lies
a lifetime of shame
a lifetime of sin
he is her daddy after all, and he wouldn't lie
Its okay sweetpea, I love you, you know
but musn't tell mommy, no one must know
Its okay sweetpea, I love you, you know
You are my special girl but no one can know
they would all hate us and they will take you away
and I won't be able to see you each day
Is that what you want, for me to go
No daddy please, I would miss you so
he holds her close and kisses her so sweet
and then comes pain and his eyes she can't meet
as the door closes the journey begins
a lifetime of lies
a lifetime of shame
a lifetime of sin
the child is a woman, soon a home of her own
those times forgotten, pushed aside as she'd grown
today is the day her future is in sight
everything looks rosy and everthing bright
the man she gave her heart takes her in his arms
the memories scream loud as she whimpers in pain
she pushes away and runs for the door
She stops, turns back and opens the door
You are not my father, that man is gone
you are my husband and where I belong
I ! am closing the door
on a lifetime of lies.
a lifetime of shame
a lifetime of sin
And opening a new door, a new journey begins...

" to all of our children, every one, every where,
Don't ever think you are alone. You are not. Don't ever 'keep it to yourself'. You can't. Don't ever believe there won't be a 'next time'. As long as you stay silent, there will be. Don't ever let this lie ruin your life like it almost did mine, and many, many others like me..Always do your best to be safe and always know you are loved, the way we were all meant to be..openly and without shame...by every one of the rest of us. Do your part and we'll do ours. our hearts are with you...and our LOVE!!!!!!

Thanks for viewing, if you know someone who would benefit from my journey, please feel free to send the image and the words...its about healing for anyone who needs it, there are more out there like me who need someone, look around and please help if you can...My life would have been so much better if someone had listened..My life is better now that I have put this behind me and chosen to share so that others know they are not alone...Blessings to all....